I have a good feeling about the current relationship as a) we can talk a lot b) we enjoy the simple things. We don’t have to do anything when going out and simply just relaxing and enjoying each other company c) we share similar humour d) we seem to have similar values for example similar attitude towards Buddhism and e) we seem to be “physically compatible” but It’s hard to say whether any relationship would last after the initial euphoria dies down. After all 50% of relationship end in divorce and most of them thought they would have last as well.
However if there are issues in the relationship it is potential conflict with my parents. My parent never met her before but they have a negative first impression for two reason
A) she is an international student from North Vietnam. Hence suspicion and political divide as our family is from the south. There was a bit of pseudo-racism comments about how “People from the North may speak well but are duplicitous and private and you’ll never know their true intentions despite their friendly demeanour” and my Mum wondering “why do you keep on dating Girls from communist country” (referencing my ex was also from China)
B) she is an international student without permanent residence (what American calls Green Card). Hence my family are suspicious that she is taking advantage of me, trying to get a relationship with a local person in an attempt to acquire permanent resident status in Australia before divorcing after allowing to stay in this country
I actually suspect that my mother will like her if she met her in person but with her limited information she is suspicious of her. I do believe that my partner is sincere but as my parent say, we all put our best face and mask in our relationship (including myself) and we don’t know the true personality until enough time has past.
Although I will say it will be an interesting situation when she finish her PHD next year. She would need to have a potential employer sponsor her for permanent resident status (if she finds a job it would have to be as a university lecturer) if she wants to stay in this country. If that is unsuccessful, either she returns back to Vietnam or get married. I admit I have a bit of anxiety about what I would do in that position. Right now i’m Thinking that this girl is a potential keeper after knowing her for one month but obviously any decision about marriage is a huge deal. I guess right now, I just ignore it and deal with the situation when the event comes and enjoy the relationship in the here and now but there does seem to be a big decision in the horizon.