(I'm kind of in this boat -- I haven't been in a relationship or had sex in a couple of years but there's a possibility of changing that with very little effort on my part, but I'm hoping for one without the other. This seems to be a real thing abetted by the internet as I've found there's such a thing as a "volcel" and "MGTOW" in -- Jesus -- online MRA corners so perhaps this has always been so?)
I wouldn't write off girls with little discernable personality in public.
Definite ditto on being glad not to have grown up with the internet. In high school I had to cover/reverse the online tracks I made in middle school, successfully: I can't imagine trying to do that now -- well it's impossible now anyway. I have an awful habit of holding onto shit for years or decades and having a permanent record of everything going back to 7th grade or earlier sounds like a goddamn nightmare.