And now for something completely different :rollseyes:
Posted by jacque on August 30, 2025, 12:50 am
I just need to vent a bit. I know everyone here has different perspectives from their own different perspectives and I appreciate that.
Subject: Text messaging
I have been very explicit, implicit, and concise in explaining communication via text with my friends and family I text.
IMHO Text is like a letter or voicemail etc. it expects a delay in response. So I stress to others to make a call for an immediate or urgent response, a repeat call will be an emergency breakthrough if Do Not Disturb is on.
And Yet I still get a text if I am in the next room or ignored if I don't respond immediately if I am working. I often work in loud and messy environments so immediate response to text is impossible in most cases. And the fact it's too much effort to speak my name to get my attention is maddening.
When I reiterate this diatribe to those I live with and need clear communication for life happenings I get met with opposition when I am clearly a team player trying to coordinate the happenings.
WTF?
I am dealing with adults by the way. Dealing with any child under 35 is a challenge. Worse when it's a spouse.
Am I wrong to feel frustrated and disrespected if it is disregarded? And express those feelings? live long and prosper as best you can Jacque
Seriously? Plus, they expect immediate responses as if you have nothing else to do even when you are at work? Umm, no, you are not wrong.
In most cases, texts aren't emergency communications. That is what phone calls are for.
What annoys me, to the point of cursing at times, are group texts where a member texts something to the group chat when it is clearly not relevant to all in the group, often to only one.
My SiL's Mom does that all the time. She'll send a text question or comment to the entire group to ask or tell only one person something. Bit everyone gets the text and gazillion to follow.
To make it worse, it is often very early am or at a time that most are sleeping.
And even worse is sending multiple texts with one thought in each but then rapid-fire multiple more inane texts after it, several with only one or more silly faces. Then 5 more texts with various gifs or LOL.
It drives me bonkers! Others do it occasionally, but she is the worst offender.
What stinks is that while she is a maddening, frequent text terrorist, she is also a kind, otherwise thoughtful, and lovely person.
So, while my complaint is different, I get why your issue bugs you so much too!
What to do about it? Well if someone ignores requests to cut it out, all you can do is block them, which is much too dramatic when it is a loved one.
on August 30, 2025, 12:50 am
