I am not offended Vikki and I am not offended on anyone else’s behalf since you have explained that you have not been contacting relatives but have always left them to contact you personally. It might be better if board members can contact you privately and not post speculative names and addresses of relatives on here though.
It is true that I have been a board member for many years but opted out when politics was continually forced upon us - I suspect many other board members opted out too.
I would be happy to help but not with this subject as I find it at the very least, morbid, despite what appears to be good intentions.