We've had a few guiding principles: teach them to respect others and demand respect from others,
make sure they see love and know what love is, and be sure they understand that choices and decisions have consequences (good and bad).
I feel your main point, big time. The oldest is 16 and will be out on her own in 2 years, and I'm very focused on being sure she's ready to survive then thrive. Beyond the big ideas, I'm realizing that there is a laundry list of things like "how to create a budget, how to manage your vehicle, etc." that I have to get on RIGHT NOW.
I'm finding anxiety is definitely increasing for me as I see myself running out of time to get my elder ready to handle life on her own. She's smart and able, and humans are highly adaptable, so in reality if she were out on the street today she'd probably pull herself together just fine (she turns 15 next month). But I want to give her the best possible foundation to build from, you know? Mainly I want her to have the values needed to live a good life, one with respect for self and others. Sounds cliche, but really a lot boils down to this.
It moisturizes my situation and maintains my sexy.
I once believed in causes, too...I had my pointless point of view, and life went on no matter who was wrong or right.
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Sidejack for olds who are parents of olds: what would you do differently if you had to parent your - Jackie January 14, 2020, 11:31:40
- If our 13yo ever hears about emancipation, heíd be all over that like a banshee* - timmer January 15, 2020, 9:44:47
- Everything seemed SO important at the time. It was not. You do what you think is - Samricky January 14, 2020, 21:34:18
- No direct experience and probably not helpful - DT January 14, 2020, 20:29:34
- Let them fail more. - Illiniphil January 14, 2020, 14:52:44
- To answer your question - LPAD January 14, 2020, 12:59:02
- I would've like to have done *something* differently so that she did not end up being a - Philo January 14, 2020, 12:55:25
- Side jack: does anyone else have kids who curse a lot? - LPAD January 14, 2020, 12:25:54
- My daughter never cussed, but she's also never heard me cuss. Her mom otoh. :eek * - Philo January 15, 2020, 9:04:10
- Sailors blush when they hear our kids talk* - timmer January 15, 2020, 8:41:39
- Not really, but after a trip to Zaxby's my 10 y/o puts a Z in front of curse words. - EffinIllini January 15, 2020, 8:29:17
- Mine don't swear, but my five year old uses the lord's name in vain constantly* - gvibes January 14, 2020, 21:36:22
- my kids have never cussed in front of me - bbonb January 14, 2020, 20:15:47
- Occasionally my 13 year old will use words that aren't banned on television - GMAW January 14, 2020, 12:55:48
- My working theory is that every 12yo from time immemorial has been a pottymouth* - Jackie January 14, 2020, 12:42:54
- No more than i do* - Taz January 14, 2020, 12:28:20
- 1.Identify their love language. 2. Wrap everything I do (discipline, support, etc) in that love - Jack McMurdo January 14, 2020, 12:02:32
- Just understand that no matter how hard you try - Sounder January 14, 2020, 11:45:33
- Obvs my situation is different than most. But right now, the really difficult thing is - Taz January 14, 2020, 11:44:47
- don't sweat the small stuff too much - Potomac January 14, 2020, 11:41:44
- Sounds like news I can use - Jackie January 14, 2020, 11:50:21
- We've had a few guiding principles: teach them to respect others and demand respect from others, - PapaDels January 14, 2020, 12:44:51
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