ooo Archived Message Posted by illiniranger on May 18, 2022, 9:59:20, in reply to "Parenting dilemma - - what age do kids no longer need a chaperone? get inside" http://www.theonion.com/three-fingered-on-class-trip-to-washington-d-c-1819570712/amp Previous Message So, I had volunteered to chaperone my 8th grade daughter's ends of school trip to Six Flags. This trip is not sponsored by the school, but is organized by parents. I find out today that the chaperones are not actually going to be on the charter bus for the 6 hours of round trip travel, but will be car pooling. Apparently, there will be no adults on the bus so as to "give the kids a little bit of freedom." There will be a couple of older siblings that are high schoolers on the bus. I know these kids. Several of them are shits. I also know what I was thinking about as an 8th grade boy and things that happened on buses where there were adult present and the adults didn't know, much less buses without adults. My wife and I are entirely uncomfortable with there being no chaperones on the bus. Are we being too protective, or is this a fair beef? I don't want my daughter to miss out, but 6 hours of adultless bus free for all seems like a bad idea too. Thoughts? Message Thread: | This response ↓ Parenting dilemma - - what age do kids no longer need a chaperone? get inside - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 8:39:42 Update #2: the organizing mom who wanted the bus to be parent free is sending passive aggressive - LovetheChief May 19, 2022, 21:12:08 UPDATE: One organizing parent seems to be conceding that parent chaperones would be welcome on the - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 17:43:56 The one doubling down already sold their shit-ass kid a bill of goods they can't now deliver. * - haighter May 18, 2022, 17:45:12 They're in 8th grade, not college. Chaperone is a no-brainer.* - uofi1998 May 18, 2022, 12:47:33 Someone is definitely getting a handy on that bus* - Sounder May 18, 2022, 12:43:30 I would be inclined towards a chaperone, but I don’t think this is an OUTRAGE either* - GMAW May 18, 2022, 12:40:09 There needs to be 2 adults on that bus* - CubsWonWorldSeries May 18, 2022, 12:04:45 The "kids" get their "little bit of freedom" in the park...NOT on the bus - RSMBob May 18, 2022, 11:51:21 again, I'm with Bob* - TarheelIllini May 18, 2022, 12:37:58 I volunteer every year to go on the High School Band trip as a medical chaperone. - ibdoc May 18, 2022, 11:27:06 I’m 37 and probably should still have a chaperone * - jayd May 18, 2022, 11:05:03 This is crazy. Of course they need chaperones. I obviously know the kids in question - MR May 18, 2022, 10:39:58 To answer your question, the trip organizers never said a thing about this. I reached out to find - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 11:11:05 I asked one of the chaperones from last year and said all of the chaperones rode the bus. - MR May 18, 2022, 11:23:08 Sigh. So now what do I do? So frustrated.* - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 11:34:55 Try to use the bus company and its rules as cover. - Chicago1995 May 18, 2022, 12:27:06 "It's a *restaurant* rule, like...ONE PERSON can't just eat all the fully loaded nachos!"* - Sammich May 18, 2022, 12:44:42 ooo - IlliniSax05 May 18, 2022, 13:24:16 Does JS know about this? I can’t see her letting this slide and she doesn’t - MR May 18, 2022, 11:42:07 have you talked to any other parents? Are they aware of the no chaperone plan? - IlliniSax05 May 18, 2022, 11:41:53 Can you offer that you're not comfortable with having no chaperones... - haighter May 18, 2022, 11:40:29 Probably should recruit a couple other chaperones so your kid isn't tagged as the fun police* - RangerDanger May 18, 2022, 11:45:02 I realize there's a balancing act here...but it sounds like the shithead kids... - haighter May 18, 2022, 12:29:41 I was wondering about last year. I’m totally uncomfortable.* - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 11:07:56 Regarding the age thing, probably why the high schoolers are on the bus. - EffinIllini May 18, 2022, 10:41:54 I’m told the highs schoolers are juniors. But as Nasty says, why are high schoolers going?* - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 11:08:49 I'm going to guess that they are children of the parents organizing the trip* - NastyBoyd May 18, 2022, 11:24:01 I'm also going to guess that the parents organizing the trip are known enablers* - NastyBoyd May 18, 2022, 11:28:44 Yes and yes.* - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 11:34:21 There should be at least one adult chaperone. - theBard May 18, 2022, 10:29:23 there should be two adult chaperones on the bus - NastyBoyd May 18, 2022, 10:28:10 ooo - illiniranger May 18, 2022, 9:59:20 You laugh, but this totally would have happened on an unchaperoned 3 hour bus in my 8th grade* - Carl Spackler May 18, 2022, 12:20:11 If you think they're going to be doing anything other that burying their heads in their phones... - aimlessillini May 18, 2022, 9:43:18 I'd be really surprised if the bus company was okay without any adults on board* - Gene Parmesan May 18, 2022, 9:40:32 same* - biclops May 18, 2022, 10:16:15 This was my thought too.* - LovetheChief May 18, 2022, 9:43:32 Not sure what age kids stop needing bus chaperones, but I know for sure it's not 13/14 - Sammich May 18, 2022, 9:34:47 Even in the much more permissive 80-90s, I don't recall being on any bus trips without chaperones - Taz May 18, 2022, 9:30:16 Too protective in my opinion, especially since the chaperones are still coming to the park - snipes824 May 18, 2022, 9:19:39 Oh goodie, a Make the Call, Bob moment... - RSMBob May 18, 2022, 9:14:27 I'm with Bob* - TarheelIllini May 18, 2022, 9:28:53 3 hours each way? They’re gonna have to stop to pee right? - haighter May 18, 2022, 9:06:44 I like this...in theory...but I think it's a tough ask for today's 8th graders. - OWWDig May 18, 2022, 9:09:22 If it’s a tough ask, then it’s a tough and likely needed learning opportunity… - haighter May 18, 2022, 9:14:55 I hear ya. I want to say that I'd go with your plan, and it is a great learning opportunity... - OWWDig May 18, 2022, 9:17:54 I'd be more worried about riding 6 hours in a car pool with people that I didn't know well - BradUnderwoodforprez May 18, 2022, 9:03:16 *hijack* - ISeeDeadHawkeyes May 18, 2022, 9:22:11 That is spectacular. - BradUnderwoodforprez May 18, 2022, 9:45:28 Too much difference in "maturity" in junior high kids. Definitely a fair concern. IMO - HoseB May 18, 2022, 9:00:47 Edit - aimlessillini May 18, 2022, 9:42:44 Disagree... they're all phone-crazy... which is what they'll do* - aimlessillini May 18, 2022, 9:44:21 I think 8th grade is fine but I do hope they're paying that bus driver double time - ATL May 18, 2022, 8:58:05 reminds me of when my friend got in trouble on the bus to space camp for making out with a girl - lcubed May 18, 2022, 8:55:17 i love that movie - VIV May 18, 2022, 10:04:19 blast from the past. i loved that movie growing up. need to see if it's streaming anywhere* - lcubed May 18, 2022, 11:05:49 Huntsville, AL? - TarheelIllini May 18, 2022, 9:29:47 pretty sure. it was a neat experience from what i remember* - lcubed May 18, 2022, 9:32:15 mini did it in 2019 and was signed up to go in 2020 and you know.... - ATL May 18, 2022, 9:51:00 One of the guys on the HS soccer team... - GrandmotherPearlsJam May 18, 2022, 9:24:52 Throw him off the team and suspend his mother…* - haighter May 18, 2022, 9:30:44 You're being too protective. * - doubledown May 18, 2022, 8:42:58 heh - VIV May 18, 2022, 8:41:49   Searching