But yes, "they/them" is just kind of awkward and hard to get used to in general and it can be especially tricky when you're used to using a different pronoun for a specific person. IIRC my gf's friend used to use female pronouns when we first met so that might be partly what's going on. She also looks very feminine which probably makes me more likely to instinctively use female pronouns.
As another example, my gf also lives someone who is nonbinary. Very androgynous and they've used "they/them" the entire time I've known them. So "they/them" rolls off my tongue naturally when talking to/about that person. But my gf also has a 2nd roommate who, similarly to the person from this past weekend, used to use female pronouns but recently started using "they/them" though she's also still cool with female pronouns I just use those for her.
But if my gf is using "they/them" for both her roommates, I often don't know who the hell she's talking about lol. So while I'm pro-trans/nonbinary and want to be supportive and respectful, there does come a point where it does actually get annoying. And it's ok to be annoyed by it. Just do your best and try to be as empathetic as possible- that's really what most trans/nonbinary people actually want. Again, they can be overly sensitive and even demanding at times but nobody should be expecting perfection of themselves or anyone else because we're all ####ed up human beings living in ####ed up times.
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