If you don't like it, don't do it.

The travel ball team you choose is precisely that: a choice. You're not going to change something that works for others, so find a new spot if you're unhappy.

HS is a choice, too. If you're not finding coaching that works exactly the way you want. You have two choices: change what you're looking for or don't play.

This crap ain't hard, be accountable for your decisions in life.