Tarot changed my approach to big life decisions too. I like to pull a daily card each morning as a focus point. Recently, I've been repeatedly drawing the 10 of pentacles as feelings and found this amazing interpretation at https://spiritualteacup.com/d/254-10-of-pentacles-as-feelings that shifted my perspective on my family situation. Instead of seeing only the current tensions, I started appreciating the deeper bonds we've built over generations. Tarot has this way of revealing layers you might miss otherwise. Do you find certain cards show up during specific phases of your life?