It was supposed to happen Sheila but it never did. My late mum had dementia, I had promised her that I would never put her into residential care no matter what, to be honest it was better for me to pay for mum to be cared for in her own home than pay the really high fees care homes demand, it worked out fine, mum was able to stay in her own home until she passed away, it must be awful to have to sell family homes to pay for care.