Maybe they won’t want to think or talk about it; don’t force a detailed discussion.

I assume you would not take them to a funeral.

You can’t control what the school will say or do, which could be helpful or not. Disputes have occurred in our local schools over proper responses to crises, like those who urge kids to talk about their feelings at school vs parents who want schools to chill and let parents handle that or are more inclined to a lower-key response.

I remember when my sister’s teacher was killed on the way to school one morning. The kids were alarmed, the adults were calm, and things quickly returned to normal.