Thank you all for the kind words and tips.*
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She is mid-70s and not in great health to begin with.
My dad is also not in great shape, but can help with the non-Alzheimer’s needs for now. He won’t be able to in 5 years.
My brother and I both live in Chicagoland.
Should we go to her doctor’s appointments?
Slam as much family stuff in the next couple years as possible, right?
Someone advised an elder care lawyer, is that a good call?
How do I make sure my dad isn’t broke coming out of this?
It is weird that you have to think about the emotional (spend time with her) stuff and also think coldly about the practical (how she gets care, how to make sure it doesn’t bankrupt dad, etc.)
Thanks for any help anyone can provide.
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 My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. What do I do? - Carl Spackler April 6, 2026, 11:45:21
- Sorry to hear, Carl. My aunt was just put into a care home due to dementia. - illini April 7, 2026, 6:44:48
- Really sorry to hear that, it’s rough. Best of luck. - Tortillini April 7, 2026, 6:41:27
- Thank you all for the kind words and tips.* - Carl Spackler April 6, 2026, 22:11:44
- My dad just passed from Alzheimer’s last month. Pretty much everything except - GhostofPokeyStixPast April 6, 2026, 22:10:11
- Very sorry to hear this* - OB25 April 6, 2026, 21:59:51
- You and your brother need to be the decision makers (not your dad) - Taz April 6, 2026, 21:34:59
- Oh man that’s tough. I’m sorry to hear that. * - biclops April 6, 2026, 16:04:56
- Make sure her current health care is maximized (diabetes, BP, cholesterol controlled) - ibdoc April 6, 2026, 15:43:04
- No advice, but sorry to hear about this. * - harb April 6, 2026, 13:55:39
- If they have the financial means, I’d see if there are assisted living places with a ladder of care - DT April 6, 2026, 12:56:18
- Get all the paperwork in place while she can (power of attorney, health directives, etc) - Potomac April 6, 2026, 12:41:48
- Something positive if she's able: video her talking about her life - Potomac April 6, 2026, 12:33:22
- Geez, very sorry to hear that - Jackie April 6, 2026, 12:32:41
- Make sure it's Alzheimer's and not another form of dementia - Potomac April 6, 2026, 12:30:24
- Can't help with any advice but i'm really sorry you and the family have to go through this* - illini21 April 6, 2026, 12:29:52
- My mom has FTD, my dad barely mobile. - Chilango April 6, 2026, 12:13:16
- Sorry man. My dad recently died of Lewy body dementia. PM me if you have any specific questions* - CoronaTheirAss April 6, 2026, 12:09:01
- Sorry buddy, good luck to you as much as possible - reggiedunlop April 6, 2026, 12:08:54
- ATLMIL also has Alzheimer's. We moved them closer and got them a caregiver - ATL April 6, 2026, 12:04:32
- where are your parents?* - bbonb April 6, 2026, 11:55:12
- I'm not sure you'll need an elder care lawyer, but getting some extra help will become an absolute - Warrin'_Illini April 6, 2026, 11:54:15
- I have no advice....just wanted to say that I'm sorry. Dealing with aging parents is tough* - OWWDig April 6, 2026, 11:53:34
- First thing to do is get a lawyer* - Stu April 6, 2026, 11:51:29
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