There is meaningful money in scholarships. People need to stop pushing this BS. Also you can use softball as a crutch to get into a school that may have been just out of your reach academically. This is not emphasized enough. Playing a sport gives SA's an edge in admissions.
I agree with you %100, playing in college is not for everyone. Unless your daughter loves the game and is willing to make sacrifices she should go join a sorority. One more thing, do not think for a minute that during the off season that the softball players are not partying like rock stars!