Not sure I completely followed the post, but one thing I'll say is, playing time matters. It's a long four years if you don't see the field. My youngest narrowed it down to an SEC and a Big Ten offer, chose the Big Ten, and was a four-year starter with a solid career. Watching the SEC team, they had crazy good players at her positions; she never would have seen the field. I know, it's a character test, work harder, but these kids were just better.