I have known JT for more than 25 years. The first 5 years were as adversaries and we had some differences of opinion but I feel I know Joe as well as most since I helped coach in his wrestling program for 8+ years.
Joe, is old school, which I actually respect. He is direct and to the point, which I also respect. People outside of his team can be turned off by the volume of his voice but his message is normally dead on. The players that have had the opportunity to play for him know that he cares about the players, whether wrestlers or softball players.
If Joe has a weakness, it's he is very loyal in a world that has become increasing less loyal. I have seen Joe get burned in wrestling, being loyal to coaches that forced Joe to make decisions that were not in his best interest in an attempt to keep coaches and players happy and they left the following year.
I also seen him make decisions based on loyalty that at times, have hurt him.
I don't agree with what happened with a team that left to go to NLL. It definitely hurt Joe and he took it personally. If Joe is guilty of anything it is that he vested in all of his players and when someone leaves, he takes it personally.

I have learned over 30 years of coaching multiple sports, that I will do my best for the players in my program and will help others when I can but if my best isn't good enough, then I can't take it personally.

As far as Jill, she is a different animal from Joe but no one can argue that she didn't love her teams and try her best to get them taken care of.

Also, I should say that Joe was one of 5 coaches that had the most influence on me when I started back in 1999.
Joe Tholl
Ed Serdar
Hanrahan Brothers
Mike Candrea - Hitting video
Ernie Parker - Amanda Freed pitching video