that their own child is hurting. The child was clearly never nurtured and doesn't feel a sense of safety to tell their parents what is happening to them. That is just criminal parenting in my book.

Not making time for them or giving them a safe space to get real is their fault. Not their child's.

At least not until the child acts out in deadly ways that kill or maim others because no one ever paid them enough attention to find out what they were going through alone.