She would just hang around the house, listen to audio books and podcasts, read and make beaded Archived Message
Posted by LovetheChief on January 21, 2024, 10:40:24, in reply to "How does she want to spend her time? "
bracelets. But, one of the problems would be that she would still get drug to a lot of her sisters' things. Sigh. Previous Message Maybe she wants to chill for a while, or maybe she wants to do something herself, unscheduled and informal. Previous Message We have 3 girls: 15, 13, 11. The first two are alphas at almost everything they do. Perfect grades, crazy and widely recognized athletes, big circles of friends. This leaves two pretty big shadows over the 11 year old who is in 6th grade. Compounding the problem is that the 6th grade class has the worst case of mean girls we have encountered so far, and she has one close friend and a couple acquaintances. 11 yr old is a good/average athlete, but she is small for her age. She has always played soccer, but has decided to give it up in the spring. She was good (which is fine for us), but not great (like her sisters). She is a very good ball handler for her basketball team and the starting point guard, but she is small which limits her ability to score. We have never made her play either sport, but have always told her she needs to play something (both for physical activity and social interaction). She is smart as a whip, devours books and information, gets great grades and is an absolute comedian. She showed some early interest in dancing, singing or acting, but after a class or two in that, gave it up. If left to her own devices, she would do no extra curricular things. And, she has never really tried hard at anything. We are hearing a lot of "I'm not good at anything" and "its not fair that 15 and 13 yr old sisters are good at everything." We point out to her how hard those two work to be good at things. I want to sign her up for swimming or tennis or acting/singing lessons or something for the spring, over her very significant protests. Do we do that and force her into something? Do we just let her be in nothing (kind of a foreign idea to both her parents and sisters). I will spend literally any amount of money for her to have a good experience and feel good at something. Anyone have any suggestions how to handle this?
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Message Thread:
- Parenting Question (long-ish) - LovetheChief January 21, 2024, 10:15:24
- 1 What other sports has she tried? 2 As someone who played competitive tennis, do not do that - bigbop85 January 22, 2024, 8:50:02
- Maybe try horse back riding? Very good exercise and therapeutic as well. Sounds like - Taz January 22, 2024, 8:49:47
- What about something like rock climbing? Not sure if you have a local gym nearby - GhostofPokeyStixPast January 22, 2024, 8:05:55
- My two kids are very close in age (15 months) and also much younger than yours… - haighter January 22, 2024, 6:47:18
- thanks all for the comments. * - LovetheChief January 22, 2024, 5:59:07
- Sounds like a good kid, but at 11 I don’t think they have autonomy to their decisions - TarheelIllini January 21, 2024, 12:51:16
- As parents, we want the best for our kids and to see them healthy, happy, and successful - RSMBob January 21, 2024, 11:49:57
- Based on what you said, I’d let her be. It’s sounds like she’d spend her time reading - Mrap24 January 21, 2024, 11:34:39
- Future CEO - timmer January 21, 2024, 11:24:25
- LOL* - suburbanmyth January 21, 2024, 11:22:41
- Sounds like a great band, chorus or theater kid. - ibdoc January 21, 2024, 10:36:29
- What theatrical opportunity exists nearby? - complainant January 21, 2024, 10:32:28
- How does she want to spend her time? - Potomac January 21, 2024, 10:24:36
- She would just hang around the house, listen to audio books and podcasts, read and make beaded - LovetheChief January 21, 2024, 10:40:24
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