My wife struggles with this same topic Archived Message Posted by tvillini on May 16, 2025, 11:27:11, in reply to "Related... my partner's dad:" Her Dad is content to do as little as possible, physically. He's not as bad as your partner's dad, but it's not great. And his kids are 1) my wife, the triatlete, and 2) his son, the pediatric surgeon. They both are watching him do nothing. We got him a new bike because the reason he said he didn't bike was because his was trash and hard to get his leg over the bar. So we got him a step through bike more suited for someone his age, and he's still never used it. We have a group chat between the kids and kids spouses, and he was saying, "What if I got him a personal trainer" and I'm like, "What if you just light your money on fire?" Message Thread: | This response ↓ Retirement sidejack pole: When you "retire" are you actually going to quit working? - ATL May 15, 2025, 8:28:37 [poll] Related... my partner's dad: - ijustkrushalot May 16, 2025, 10:16:02 I get kinda shocked at how much people don't walk in my small town... - haighter May 16, 2025, 12:42:04 This is an underrated factor in the difference in healthiness between city folks - Sounder May 16, 2025, 12:58:21 AKA walkable communities are communism.* - Warrin'_Illini May 16, 2025, 12:59:30 Remove the drinking and that’s basically my parents. - Carl Spackler May 16, 2025, 11:37:11 My wife struggles with this same topic - tvillini May 16, 2025, 11:27:11 Can't see myself going full Stu, but certainly hope that after years of sitting at a desk... - EffinIllini May 16, 2025, 11:20:28 That's a shame; a lot of guys (especially) go that way. - Stu May 16, 2025, 10:46:21 I have drastically cut back on the alcohol since last November. It's made a significant change... - Tuscy May 16, 2025, 11:04:12 Yup. Not to mention a better chance at avoiding/beating cancer* - Stu May 16, 2025, 11:13:54 I've done that once. Would prefer to avoid it going forward. * - Tuscy May 16, 2025, 11:24:18 It’s not as much fun as people say* - Stu May 16, 2025, 11:58:50 I had this dark thought yesterday - Sounder May 16, 2025, 12:01:30 There’s a lot more. Like wearing tight pants.* - Stu May 16, 2025, 12:16:11 My parents are in the middle of a two week bicycle tour through the netherlands - gvibes May 16, 2025, 10:26:53 Lulz at your dad* - ATL May 16, 2025, 10:19:27 Yeah, that's good* - EffinIllini May 16, 2025, 11:06:33 If consulting gigs are still readily available, I could see doing that a year or two* - ISeeDeadHawkeyes May 16, 2025, 8:03:11 I can't imagine wanting to work when I retire* - Sounder May 15, 2025, 19:03:39 What if you can retire 5 years earlier if you just WFH 20 hours a week?* - Stu May 15, 2025, 19:46:49 I'm the wrong person to ask that - Sounder May 15, 2025, 20:47:20 What if your house was 2x its current size? * - haighter May 16, 2025, 7:32:22 You could have my life - Stu May 15, 2025, 20:51:22 Kristen Cavallari?* - VIV May 16, 2025, 9:53:46 Maaaayyyybe* - Stu May 16, 2025, 10:00:02 ask her about laguna beach* - VIV May 16, 2025, 10:03:47 I have no idea who she is. Some blathering about Reality TV, which I think is stupid.* - Stu May 16, 2025, 10:07:09 she got famous for being bitchy to other girls when she was a teenager* - VIV May 16, 2025, 10:15:54 Well, she seems to think all her faults are caused by other people.* - Stu May 16, 2025, 10:46:58 that does not surprise me. * - VIV May 16, 2025, 11:44:10 We have a semi retired guy who has a subscription to here - ATL May 15, 2025, 20:49:31 WTF? you get the privilege of paying $100/month to get to work in a glorified coffee shop?* - VIV May 16, 2025, 9:50:33 It would be pretty easy to spend $100/mo. in a coffee shop if you're working there a few hours/week - Herman Blume May 16, 2025, 10:40:24 They obviously appeal to some people. *shrugs** - ATL May 16, 2025, 10:00:06 they wouldn't have them if they didn't appeal to some people - VIV May 16, 2025, 10:03:24 You're an introvert who loves working from home - Sounder May 16, 2025, 11:28:59 People pay to feel like they're part of an exclusive club. - longsnapper May 16, 2025, 10:23:42 Those work clubs couldn't be dumber. Smelling your own farts isn't work* - longsnapper May 15, 2025, 21:48:10 I’ve never been to one. I assumed that people go there to work and get a change of scenery. - ATL May 15, 2025, 21:50:36 Just think about the decisions involved that make people conclude - longsnapper May 15, 2025, 22:53:09 much like a neutered dog, you don't get it* - Sounder May 16, 2025, 11:30:28 someone woke up on the judgy side of the bed today * - ghost_of_clt May 16, 2025, 6:57:17 Usually.* - longsnapper May 16, 2025, 7:17:00 Smell other people's farts, as it were.* - complainant May 15, 2025, 21:54:39 Those work clubs are very cool* - Sounder May 15, 2025, 20:50:38 i don't get it * - VIV May 16, 2025, 9:51:20 Is Adam Neumann involved?* - complainant May 15, 2025, 21:15:03 What? Me worry?! * - Tuscy May 16, 2025, 5:41:46 That’s Larry “Bud” Newman* - ATL May 16, 2025, 6:06:52 He cracked me up on Seinfeld. * - Tuscy May 16, 2025, 6:38:50 They’ve expanded quite a bit since I moved here so I’m worried he is * - ATL May 15, 2025, 21:21:29 these threads are terrible for my mental health * - biclops May 15, 2025, 12:01:41 I don't know, I had a fun time trapsing around the landfill with two old guys yesterday* - ATL May 15, 2025, 12:02:34 Another Grindr success story* - HamptonSki May 15, 2025, 20:37:44 Dear Penthouse: I never thought this could happen to me.* - Stu May 15, 2025, 20:40:20 Speaking of Grindr success stories* - ATL May 15, 2025, 20:41:04 Said no one ever.* - LovetheChief May 15, 2025, 19:08:10 We were in the shade, next to a creek where a civil war battle was fought, and where the county - ATL May 15, 2025, 19:31:31 So interesting!!!* - Stu May 15, 2025, 19:53:25 Thanks, it was!* - ATL May 15, 2025, 20:32:34 Not the first choice, combo of the last 5* - TarheelIllini May 15, 2025, 11:15:38 maybe I'll get a part time gig at a lego store so I can get discounts - IlliniSax05 May 15, 2025, 10:02:07 I could see myself being course ranger or sitting on a mower a few hours per week. * - Tuscy May 15, 2025, 10:01:17 I'd like to find something be it paid or volunteer or my own work... - haighter May 15, 2025, 9:43:07 I've half-jokingly said I want to take a bunch of my retirement money and buy an 8 seat floatplane.. - Illiniphil May 15, 2025, 9:18:54 I almost took a NPS job in Utah when I was 23. First job out of school sucked - illini May 15, 2025, 19:26:19 Utah parks at age 23 sounds pretty fun. - EffinIllini May 16, 2025, 8:55:22 ^^ Supposed to be under Effin below. * - illini May 15, 2025, 19:26:54 If I was at a point where my consulting services were desired, I could see myself doing some one off - snipes824 May 15, 2025, 9:17:01 Drive a garbage truck in Yellowstone. - EffinIllini May 15, 2025, 9:09:19 Dream job ruined by pack in, pack out* - RVA May 15, 2025, 18:32:28 sidejack. my wife said the other day she thinks she'd like to go to yellowstone sometime - lcubed May 15, 2025, 11:36:59 I think you would get pretty sick of tourist asswipes* - Stu May 15, 2025, 9:13:40 When Dad said that, it was late 90's. - EffinIllini May 15, 2025, 9:18:59 Oh I dunno. In the late '60s there were plenty of asswipes - Stu May 15, 2025, 9:23:40 I had some bear-oriented super 8 home movies from the late 60s - complainant May 15, 2025, 11:27:48 Yeah, my parents have plenty of pictures of that from trips when they were kids. - EffinIllini May 15, 2025, 9:26:24 Good for them! I'd like to go back. - Stu May 15, 2025, 9:29:51 Would it have killed you to take a shower?* - Herman Blume May 15, 2025, 10:15:12 When you're hanging with the bears, you want to smell like the bears.* - Stu May 15, 2025, 10:25:37 You need to make the pole "choose all that apply". - Illiniphil May 15, 2025, 9:07:22 I have a side gig correcting the lousy work of ‘attorneys’* - Stu May 15, 2025, 8:58:03 Most likely to do some volunteer work to have some purpose and structure - DT May 15, 2025, 8:57:21 i don't even know what we're having for supper tonight* - lcubed May 15, 2025, 8:47:07 I had a couple of consulting gigs lined up when I retired, but - larue33 May 15, 2025, 8:45:59 I mentioned my buddy who is possibly going to drive a bus. He also may try to substitute teach. - Warrin'_Illini May 15, 2025, 8:41:32 Golf/sling beers somewhere/exercise/annoy my wife/tool around the house/travel (lots of concerts!) - Kajagoogoo May 15, 2025, 8:38:04 Golf/volunteer/work out/travel/cook/learn languages* - Carl Spackler May 15, 2025, 8:33:10 30% job outside my profession, 30% volunteerism, 20% golf, 20% hookers/blow* - voiceofreason May 15, 2025, 8:31:06   Searching