- Remove the drinking and that’s basically my parents. Archived Message
Posted by Carl Spackler
on May 16, 2025, 11:37:11, in reply to "Related... my partner's dad:"
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I’ve tried every which way to talk to them about it. I think I’m gonna have to bring out the big guns next time and say “if you want to watch any of your grandkids graduate from college, you both need to make some major changes. Because otherwise you’re not gonna make it.” If that sounds harsh, I’ve tried every other soft touch approach. My mom requested a Fitbit in an effort to be better at tracking her exercise. Great step in the right direction! She’s had it for a month and hasn’t put it on yet because “she can’t figure out a password”. You do nothing all day, mom. Figure it out.  Previous MessageHe worked his ass off in a factory and upon retiring seems very content to sit on the couch and eat and drink all day. He's overall in horrible health and is currently in a nursing home doing a rehab stint recovering from his second bout of cellulitis in the last couple of months. His mobility has gone from mediocre to pretty much nil and has had multiple falls in the last year. The girlfriend is pretty frustrated with him because he doesn't commit to rehab and if/when he makes it home will just park himself back on the couch.. I've kept my thoughts to myself but I look at his health over the two years I've known him and I can project where this is going, and it's not great. I don't really want to broach the subject of "your dad is living his life his way and that's just how it is"... I think they've tried to coach him up on "right now is your chance to turn it all around" and that seems like a very narrow and maybe impossible window to sneak through... just kinda sucks. (on the flip side, my dad also worked in a factory until retirement, and has committed himself to staying as healthy as possible to draw as much money from Caterpillar's pension system as he possibly can, I think largely out of spite) |
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