As a parent, you want the best for your kid. No doubt. Don't take this as a knock, but the adversity at the HS level may be a good experience for her down the road. How do you handle unfairness? I have yet to see a HS coach like to lose games. Eventually, the best 9 play unless he/she is an ogre. No way would your average coach commit that much time/effort to a program just to sit one of the best players out of spite or lack of fundraising dollars. Best of luck in whatever you chose.